Any training is a system which constrains you first but then gives freedom. Knowledge is to be hammered into one’s head, while skills are to be into one’s arms, hands and legs. That’s what relations are in principle, both personal and business ones: comfort and freedom at the cost of discomfort and dependence. Thirst for development is a bent for lack of freedom despite the fact that an educated person seems to have more freedom than a person of narrow views.
You can’t escape yourself and your own motives. One decides to be independent and can’t stop asking people around whether he has managed to or not. Another one makes decision to obey his or her partner fully without asking permission to do so. Follow your own nature, remain pending if you are dependent, drive if you have a drive and wheels.
Direct and violent people are unpredictable short-term, soft and compliant people are unpredictable long-term. You’ll never guess what stunt call one pull in a minute. You’ll never guess what trick another one can pull in ten years of marriage.
If you want to send your partner into a hypnotic trance in a fast and powerful way, adopt the diabolic incredible overriding super suggestion which sounds like “Okay, let’s do your way”.
On Friday Sheo-School discussed a case: a couple had been together for almost 20 years (and even have been running a business together). Then he met another woman and even married her. The girl of course is not enjoying this situation where they continue having business with no closeness. So she wants to get him back.
The main idea was to make an unexpected trick which will allow turning the tables. She needs not to reboot relations but to build them anew with the same guy. And firstly she needs to find a young boyfriend.
To answer the question of who you are (if the “no one” non-dual response is not for you so far) first answer the “who-do-you-live-for” question. And you will have the whole variety of your identities in front of you.
When people are ashamed of words (which in fact means they feel insecure about the things these words define) they mispronounce them or use dirty equivalents instead. And that’s not something to be ignored, it is the ground for hard work.
Today is Monday, take care of adults. Otherwise (alternatively “and then”) our Sheo-patrol will come to you.
Many people think that shifting personal boundaries for the sake of a partner killed their relationship. No, it didn’t. Relations were destroyed by the fear of losing control. People could open the door but chained it, which made a gap: there was still control, there was still a cage, but relationship had gone.
Developing relations means exploring new sides of your partner. Developing your own personality means exploring new sides of yourself. That’s what we need roles for, they make world spin faster and we turn our different sides to it which accelerates development and does not let boredom happen.