When you bet money as the last resort (expecting it to compensate for all life failures) money will add to the list of disappointments even when you finally get it. The same is with relations and plenty of other things, as hopes do not work, the thing that really works is fear, but it should first be curbed and harness.
There are no relations or parting that are forever. “Forever” requires extraordinary hard efforts.
When someone was fighting and won it is called strength. When someone was fighting and lost it is called weakness. But both are believe to be a norm for some unknown reason, because if someone deliberately surrended, refused to fight, decided not to languish in the queue and not to adopt an I-don’t-give-a-damn attitude it is called a perversion. I often see people fighting without any wish to do it but out of the wish not to be different from others. To forget it and enjoy life one should have a very advanced mind or should be extraordinary lazy.
The tree of relations should be watered very-very often, otherwise all the leaves will fall off and there will be only bare branches left. Autumn will come, and will be followed by winter.
What should one think of him or herself to pathetically declare (s)he was wiped the floor with? It would be much more therapy like to write “I am nobody” instead of all these capers.
It is evident that if you are hungry the food will not cook itself, and if you choose to go to a restaurant you will have to pay. As for relationship food it is even more complicated: the food should be cooked the way enjoyable to it.
Your pain will not decrease – the only thing you can do is to try describing it and place on your wall, or make a picture of it, or draw it. Or at least you can suffer in an interesting place surrounded by nice people. Or you can even do everything together. Generally pain is culture fuel.
A system throws out extra links until it collapses. That is why relations should always be added with something. Even with something that does not bring pleasure, complicates them or push them to the blink of ruin.
A good test to understand whether your changes are (or self-enrichment is) real is to compare your yesterday with the day before yesterday in terms of love given away to people. If the answer is “definitely yes” follow it with the question “Really? In what way?”
There are two equivalent Sheo-guidelines: 1) relations are finite and 2) relations never finish. Follow both of them simultaneously.