The one who judges (right/wrong), who orders (must/mustn’t), who compares (better/worse), who asks (isn’t it?), who specifies (will you, please, explain), and who makes conclusions (so it means that) is at a more advantageous position, as (s)he does not share anything, but his or her fears. It is another pair of shoes when you tell about yourself, your experience, your feelings. It is like being naked, fat and taken no shower in front of your colleagues and bosses in the office.