The higher your sense of self-worth (SSW) the higher you will value your own choice. It applies to everything – people, the world, circumstances. It even applies to those who you have no power over, because the choice of what you have no power over is also your choice, and it is also valuable. It means that people who value themselves value everything around them, that’s why they rarely show dissatisfaction. To complain that you are or were in relations with “an asshole” means to negatively value oneself.