Once upon a time there lived a girl with two girls inside.
Shouting in relations may not manifest the desire to be understood but a childish wail of loneliness. So when a partner is shouting at you try coming closer. Or on the contrary disappear from his or her sight, in nine situations out of ten (s)he will follow you stomping loudly or will even burst into tear of resentment and anger.
You can’t escape yourself and your own motives. One decides to be independent and can’t stop asking people around whether he has managed to or not. Another one makes decision to obey his or her partner fully without asking permission to do so. Follow your own nature, remain pending if you are dependent, drive if you have a drive and wheels.