It is nice to think when you have lived together with someone for 10 years (like in a big, warm and cosy grave) that all the decisions and choices have already been made by the partner, you being among these decisions and choices, you, only you and forever. But it does not happen like this, my friends. On the contrary it happens that this calm becomes an aerodrome where the partner takes a run, flies away from and never comes back leaving you to wait and wait like a gray cold asphalt.