In relations these are relations that are the most important. That is why meeting a person you should ask: “Are comfortable and safe with me? Do I excite you? Do you want me? What do you think of me, how often do you think of me? Do you want to be with me?” These are the most significant things. The one who asks “How do you do?” wants to show that (s)he doesn’t bother about you, that you are not in relations. And if we are not in relations why do I bother talking with him or her?