I understand that it is difficult to motivate a relationship partner saying or doing something that will make him want to be careful, mindful, etc. That is why you may start with avoiding demotivation, that is causing no direct aggression. What are the most popular techniques? To make someone do something, to force him or her, to provoke with blackmail and threatening. For some reason these are called “female tricks”, though it is quite evident what they finally lead to.