I think it is time to remove moral from the assessment of feelings when people think there are right feelings that should be (bloody hell) felt and wrong feelings that shouldn’t be felt. It is another level of freedom which is though very hard to achieve: it is quite evident that if my girlfriend starts having feelings towards my friend I will not be able to stay neutral, let alone feeling happy, but at least deep inside we can understand that bans and limitations for desires, all kinds of struggle against oneself and “will power” are nonsense which makes people unhappy. Or are you of a different opinion? And is this different opinion caused by fear of losing control?