Accessories are the sixteenth element of Sheo-Mo. Properly speaking, the number of elements is not limited, you can think of your own or, on the contrary, use just couple of them out of this basic set. Besides having acquainted yourself with detailed descriptions of the first Sheo-looks you will notice that it is not the first set, some elements differ. It fully corresponds to the approach allowing to change anything for developing flexibility which is the only thing allowing to keep relations.
This element is one of the most clear in Sheo-mo. The bag is luggage, something brought with you; there can be plenty of or little luggage. It is about our past which definitely determines our future, especially when there is a lot of past. But it is not about this because there is always a lot of past. It is about the significance attached to the past.
Sheo-Mo is dealing with psychological image elements (see the List) which are easy to change, just like changing clothes and even easier, clothes should first be bought, and Sheo-look is something non-material, though its effect is much stronger than those of expensive shoes or manicured nails.
The only difficulty is that one should learn how to wear Sheo-Mo elements. There should be inner permissions. For example, it is easy to understand how to shift the focus from one’s eyes to one’s lips in Sheo-makeup, but it is not that easy to make a decision to really practice it. So, what is the right way to manage the situation?
It is a very simple way. Use the magic word “season”. No changes are forever when we deal with fashion. You try something, “wear” it for some time, and then you are back to what was there before or try something else. Yesterday you entained yourself with Sheo-line, today you focus on Sheo-lingerie, and tomorrow brings a chance for Sheo-hat. Definite things become very easy when they are not for ever but for some time (or even for once).
It is like trying a dish you have never tasted before while you are on a visit. One time is easy even if you won’t like it. But who knows, you may pretty well like it.
Today we are going to talk about Sheo-variety element.
This element is connected with interests, hobbies and does not seem easy at first glance – how can one “put on” more or less interests compared to what she/he really has? Let us say I am interested in impressionism and red wine and don’t know about anything else. How can I suddenly turn out a man taking an interest in everything around? How do I find time to acquire at least general knowledge about all these things?
I shall explain you how. But first let’s agree that Sheo-variety is a pair – single-colour and multi-colour, motley. Sheo-Mo trends and vectors can go into details of these poles, saturate them with different shades, but we should learn their major difference which is connected with your habitual Sheo-variety being single-coloured (narrow range of interests) or multi-coloured (wide range of interests).
You can be a dentist and that’s all you are interested in and know about, and there is nothing else to talk with you on (single-coloured Sheo-variety); or you have changed twenty different professions and jobs with your own opinions and experience in (rich Sheo-variety).
A rave of colour may seem preferable to a single colour, but it is not true – have a look at traditional fashion. Diversity of colours is replaced with austerity and vice versa. Why? That’s because the change itself is much more important than the elements that are being interchanged.
Furthermore millions of interests produce impression of you being superficial while one object concentration leaves a feeling of profoundness. So it is important that you can “wear” both single-colour and multi-colour.
How to conquer both poles?
It is simple. You should become a person of varied attainments seasonably able to shadow the richness of your interests having left just one in focus, the one the most actual in a definite satiation.
How can one become a person of varied attainments? It is simple as well – use Contour map for this purpose.
I shall not explain what Contour Map is; if you don’t know it you should put everything aside and study it first. It is both interesting and useful, and it is the first basic model of the Sheo-school, but if you are one of our students you are impossible not to know it.
So, let’s talk further about Sheo-variety.
You should find two interests in each contour which will give you eight in total. Who two for each one? One of them will be “female”, the other one will be “male”. I remind you that “female interests” are not the same as “interests of women”, they are interests of “the female part” of a person; the same is about male ones.
Colours for interests palette
It is not a dogma, it is just an example, the first that has come to my head.
For Strength contour:
Female — cooking, raising children, family holidays
Male — bricolage of all kinds, the house and garden care
For Power contour:
Female — sheo-approach, money (planning), psychology
Male — business, politics, sales
For Mind contour:
Female: languages, design, arts and crafts (drawing, painting, knitting)
Male: creative work, science, gadgets, sports
For Passion contour:
Female: volunteer work, organizing things, fashion
Male: coaching, cultural events
Division into “male” and “female” is definitely very conditional and can be disposed of or can be viewed as a helpful general reference point.
How to make one?
Once seriously started on the palette of your interests should be formed and added continuously spending time on each of the interests in the list to study reference materials and to acquire some relevant experience. If one of the interests chosen has turned out to be not really interesting for you put it aside and take the next one.
As an example it is a great choice for the Mind contour to develop the interest in developing new interests.
How to use it?
I hope you will agree that the mind of a person interested in everything around her or him is a bit different from the mind of a person focused in a narrow area. As everything that we do not consider valuable for us seems a hindrance, irritates and induces boredom. But a single-colour Sheo-variety owner can impress with deep knowledge. So there is a stimulus to try both sides.
To put it all very simple different poles of the Sheo-variety give you an opportunity to show yourself:
- an easy, all-round, “flittering” person;
- a focused, serious, thorough person;
Switching within Sheo-variety is a nice way to renew a disappearing interest of your partner towards you.
For more on Sheo-Mo, see:
Sheo-Mo Vocabulary – elements of a look
Sheo-footwear is an important element of sheo-fashion which refers to the inner state. To put it simply these are half-conscious (located at the periphery of consciousness) fantasies of your interlocutor of i) where you have come from, ii) where you are now, if you communicate on the network.
Sheo-Mo (Mo is derived from “la mode” – fashion in French) is a method aimed at developing flexibility in thoughts and behavior using the principle of seasonality which allows to re-connect to the constantly changing life maintaining the ecology of relations in all its contexts. A fashionable method needs its fashionable terminology.
We know that among the Sheo-elements there is a Sheo-blouse, it reflects person’s ideas of a preferred reference group: “boys” or “girls”. But regardless of this focus one can wear clothes of her or his own sex or of the opposite one. These nuances are included into the scope of the “Sheo-top” element.
Among the Sheo-Mo elements the Blouse is a manifestation of one of the two possible answers to the question "Who do you want to be liked by?" The first answer is by girls. The second answer is by boys. It will be more correct to define the answers as representatives of your own sex or representatives of the opposite sex rather than boys and girls. The opposite sex in its turn should be understood as the group of people you prefer as sexual partners.
Let’s talk about an important and curious part of Sheo-mo elements connected with choosing a partner and interacting with him. Here we talk about separation of powers, who orders and who obeys. The element is called “Sheo-bottom” which emphasizes its sexual (from the waist down) nature.
Continue reading Ordering or Obeying? (Sheo-Bottom)
Sheo-shape is the element that constitutes basic set of deep human values, one out of four possible, as well as the fear that largely governs it. The School disposes of detailed materials on the topic; human nature motive and value wise (“contour map”) has been repeatedly described, the main source is “How to understand” lecture.
Continue reading Rounder Square, Sharper Circle (Sheo-Shape)
The aim of Sheo-Mo is to describe the image of a person through simple elements each of which is easy to change having solved two tasks at once: relationship optimization and diversification. Let’s have a close look at such important element of Sheo-Mo vocabulary as Sheo-line.
Continue reading Between Rigid and Hard (Sheo-Line)