A Kept-Beauty is fortunate (beautiful women are often lucky): she is offered a very elegant vector for Sheo-style. This Sheo-Mo element, as you remember, is very simple: the more a person shares the idea of primacy of desire over duty the more stylish (as it is interpreted by the School) she is.
What I like Sheo-vectors for is that they can be used not all together but each one individually. It is just like an ordinary fashion: you buy a white shirt at one place, a green jacket at another place, and pink pants at a different one. What is more, if you wear all your clothes being of the same brand, add a perfume and a watch of this very brand on top, it will look ridiculous.
Therefore you should not worry that vectors on a definite Sheo-look contradict each other, let it be, it is just the right way. You should choose changes for those elements of your image that are the most catchy or even shocking for you.
Sheo-variety was explained by me in a rather complicated way, so I am sure that many of you haven’t got to the finals where two poles of Sheo-variety turned out to be thoroughness and superficiality. Unfortunately it is impossible to draw a straight line parallel between superficiality “in life” and superficiality “in relations”. For example, we know girls with a very deep and diverse palette of interests who can’t make personal relations a part of this palette. And vice versa, rather superficial people often happen to be a very deep relationship.
But we can definitely say following the fathers of neurolinguistic programming that if you can’t achieve the result in a definite way, try any other way, and then another one and another one until you succeed. Try changing elements of your Sheo-look seasonally.
Or… let’s think… Suppose that superficiality in relations is caused by diversity and deepness of other interests. How can it be? The answer is simple: it is hard to take a fancy to something you spend only one eights of your time on. And vice versa: it is hard not to stick when you do not take interest in anything but your partner (even not a very suitable one).
Let’s take a Yummy as an example. She is not bored for lack of an occupation. On the contrary she has plenty of things to do: sport, dances, communication and personal trainings plus her appearance to be paid attention to through pedicure, manicure, and hair and beauty treatments. There is also a holiday to go on. She’s got a lot on her plate!
And it gets clear that being preoccupied with lots of those things men when she comes across them are taken the most important and the most pragmatic from – their penis. Everything that will require reorganizing her life completely (stable dating and a family as a perspective) goes by the wayside, to the fantasy and regret area.
It it is so (Yummies know better whether it is right or wrong) their Sheo-vector can vary between two diametrically opposite directions:
1. To narrow the focus of interests to make a man the center and priority in your actual busy schedule, not in your dreams at night.
2. To expand the range of interests to help her realize that she gets exactly what she wants from men and all the emotions about inability to get more is a kind of free life tax.
To be honest I support the second option. My experience tells me that really deep interest aimed at other person’s pleasure and development, not her own ones, does not turn out particularly strong and long-lasting with Yummies.
Sister of Mercy is a Sheo-model, a generalized character of a girl who is so good that there is no need marrying her. To be more precise she is not that good. No. She is actually good neither as a mistress, nor as a wife.
She is no good not because she is bad but because that’s what she thinks of herself. She probably waits for a boy to offer her everything. Or she may be shy thinking she has no right to demand. Or she may feel that she does not deeply excite him yet (as she hasn’t learnt the first four lessons of Columbine sister, for example).
As it has already been said in the description of the Yummy Girl line Sheo-vector, you cannot be rigid (not explaining your fears, wishes, thoughts and actions to your partner) and hard (being physically detached from him) at the same, or otherwise you find yourself alone.
This is the first Sheo-vector for Yummy Girls. But let’s first remember what Sheo-line is. This is a combination of flexibility/rigidity and hardness/softness in your image. In particular, if you want relationship your line should not be rigid and hard at the same time, or flexible and soft simultaneously. Balance should be found.
Once upon a time there lived a girl with two girls inside.
Dangerous Voiceless is the girl who voluntarily chose the victim role long ago, and it had been working well in relations until the inner space for emotional garbage exhausted. And the system faced the danger of either explosion or fire. So it’s time to partially get disposed of the garbage, and partially recycle it at the processing plant to be built to process the garbage into some useful resource. How do we do this?
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Dangerous Voiceless is a classical example of a victim in relationship. She is the girl who is doing everything her partner wants and nothing of what she really wants. It is not that her partner is so unfeeling, but over the years of relationship she has taught him to neglect her. How has she managed to draw herself into the far corner so well? It is simple, she hasn’t been using her own desires for so long that they’ve stopped manifesting themselves.
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