Sheo-variety was explained by me in a rather complicated way, so I am sure that many of you haven’t got to the finals where two poles of Sheo-variety turned out to be thoroughness and superficiality. Unfortunately it is impossible to draw a straight line parallel between superficiality “in life” and superficiality “in relations”. For example, we know girls with a very deep and diverse palette of interests who can’t make personal relations a part of this palette. And vice versa, rather superficial people often happen to be a very deep relationship.
But we can definitely say following the fathers of neurolinguistic programming that if you can’t achieve the result in a definite way, try any other way, and then another one and another one until you succeed. Try changing elements of your Sheo-look seasonally.
Or… let’s think… Suppose that superficiality in relations is caused by diversity and deepness of other interests. How can it be? The answer is simple: it is hard to take a fancy to something you spend only one eights of your time on. And vice versa: it is hard not to stick when you do not take interest in anything but your partner (even not a very suitable one).
Let’s take a Yummy as an example. She is not bored for lack of an occupation. On the contrary she has plenty of things to do: sport, dances, communication and personal trainings plus her appearance to be paid attention to through pedicure, manicure, and hair and beauty treatments. There is also a holiday to go on. She’s got a lot on her plate!
And it gets clear that being preoccupied with lots of those things men when she comes across them are taken the most important and the most pragmatic from – their penis. Everything that will require reorganizing her life completely (stable dating and a family as a perspective) goes by the wayside, to the fantasy and regret area.
It it is so (Yummies know better whether it is right or wrong) their Sheo-vector can vary between two diametrically opposite directions:
1. To narrow the focus of interests to make a man the center and priority in your actual busy schedule, not in your dreams at night.
2. To expand the range of interests to help her realize that she gets exactly what she wants from men and all the emotions about inability to get more is a kind of free life tax.
To be honest I support the second option. My experience tells me that really deep interest aimed at other person’s pleasure and development, not her own ones, does not turn out particularly strong and long-lasting with Yummies.